OUR DAUGHTERS; OUR PRIDE


 

Training a girl child is not an easy task. It requires time, patience, energy, and intentional attention. There are many values we must consciously teach our daughters if we truly desire a better future for them and for society.

Some of these include:

1. Our daughters should understand that money has no gender. A woman can earn, create wealth, and succeed without depending solely on a man.

2. They should be taught to use their brains, skills, and talents to make money—not their bodies.

3. Marrying a rich man may be good, but it should never be the main criterion when choosing a life partner. Instead, our daughters should pray, work hard, and strive to become successful themselves—even becoming leaders. A female governor is not a bad idea at all.

4. She should be trained to become a successful, responsible, and respectful lady. Regardless of her achievements, respect in relationships remains important.

5. Our daughters should understand that time waits for no one and should not be wasted on unserious relationships.

6. True beauty is not found in exposing nakedness but in dressing with dignity and confidence like a queen.

7. They should know that relationships with married men often lead to pain and regret. Wisdom and self-respect must guide their decisions.

8. Once married, the strongest bonds a woman should nurture are with God and her husband.

9. Beauty without wisdom and purpose leads nowhere. Intelligence gives beauty value.

10. Our daughters must learn to believe in themselves, knowing they are capable of achieving their life goals


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11.  No one desires a liability. Every responsible man looks for a helpmeet, not a burden. The era of total dependency is fading; productivity now matters.

12. They should understand that not everything that glitters is gold.

13. Failure is not the end. Encourage them to rise again, because there is no height they cannot attain with perseverance.

14. Courtship is not marriage. Our daughters should know they can walk away from red flags at any time.

15. Tell your daughter she is beautiful. If a man says so, it should not shake her self-worth—she already knows who she is.

16. Marriage is good, but domestic violence should never be tolerated.

17. Not everyone who says “I love you” truly means it. Some words are spoken with selfish intentions—wisdom is key.

18.  Tell her she is intelligent, bold, and capable, and that she can make you proud.

19. Let us be proud of our daughters. Use positive words, even when correcting them. Discipline mixed with love builds confidence and strength.

20. May God bless and protect all our daughters.

Amen.

— QueenLady Ngozi Tessy Ekwunife, PhD, JP, KSJI.

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